Let’s Get Dicey: Rekindling Excitement in my Marriage


This year my husband and I are reaching the 11-year milestone in our marriage. We have had really good and easy years and we have had really hard years. In the last couple of years, I feel like we have really hit our stride, but I knew we needed to continue to be proactive in making sure we were connecting and spending time together.

Sometimes when you are in the weeds with parenting, spending time together can be easier said than done. In 2021 I came across this post from Vermont Mom, Talk Nerdy to Me: How Role Playing Games Made My Marriage Fun Again , and it stuck with me. My husband has always been a PC gamer and I had heard him and his gaming friends talking about starting a Dungeons and Dragons game.

Let's Get Dicey

I casually mentioned to him that if they did I would be interested in joining. The joy I saw on his face proved to me that this was the right move, even if I felt completely out of my comfort zone.

Before I knew it, we were creating characters, watching Critical Role, and the date for our first game was set. I was NERVOUS!! What if I was too shy to role-play, what if I hated it, what if I couldn’t keep up with all these experienced gamers??!!

Dungeons and Dragons Dice and Character Sheet

After the first few games, I was HOOKED!!!! I loved it!! It is SO MUCH FUN to play with my husband and his group of friends. Not to mention it has bonded us in so many ways, we have expanded and are now teaching our kids how to play so we have time as a family together.

We have done DIY projects together like building dice boxes, or when we travel we like to go searching for cool dice packs together. And now AT LEAST once a week we sit down together after the kids are in bed and play together for 3 hours with our group.

Husband Glueing Fabric on the Dice Box

Maybe a role-playing game like Dungeons and Dragons is not your or your partner’s thing. For us, this was the perfect way to meet each other in the middle and find ways to be proactive in making sure we are connecting and keeping our marriage front and center. But I suggest finding that thing that you and your partner can do to make sure you are connecting and making each other a priority.

I never want to get complacent or comfortable just doing the day-to-day stuff and end up years down the road realizing my husband and I are living more like roommates than partners.

Do you think you and your partner might like to get Dicey??? Did you know there are places here locally where you can go to find games and groups? The biggest one is Cottens Collectibles! They also host games at the local libraries for teens!

Previous articleShop Local in the Coastal Bend : Corpus Christi
Next articleBasic Needs are NOT Self-Care
Jennifer is a Coastal Bend Native, born and raised in Ingleside. She began contributing to the Corpus Christi Moms Blog in 2018 and stepped up as the Community Engagement Coordinator in 2019. She is happiest when she is crafting, writing, or doing anything artistic. She loves music, especially ANYTHING from the 90's, and is often seen dancing around the kitchen to Nsync while cooking dinner. She is married to Derik and has two kids, Connor and Keeley (pronounced Key-Lee). Jennifer still feels like a novice when it comes to parenting and enjoys letting other moms know they are not doing life alone. She also admits she watches copious amounts of Netflix, but balances that out by reading to and with her kiddos as much as possible each day.