To The Kids Who are Different

Here’s to your kids:

The kid who loves to read

The kid who would rather watch a movie

The kid who loves to make noise

The kid who is quiet

The kid who loves to play sports

The kid that does not like sports

The kid who is a picky eater

The kid who loves all kinds of food

The kid who is fearless

The kid who is timid and shy

Our kids, the little ones that depend on us. The tweens, who are tip-toeing into adolescents. The teenagers, who sure can give us a run for our money. What is the one thing they all have in common?

They need encouragement. Encouragement to take that first step. Encouragement to try that new food. Encouragement to play that sport, or instrument. Encouragement to fill out those college applications, job applications, and even encouragement to get behind the wheel of the car and get their license. (I think we parents need encouragement for that one, too).

Sometimes, I think we forget that our kids are more than just our babies, our children; they’re humans. They all have their own unique personality. They’re own spark. They’re own gifts.

My daughter is a tween. She’s about to turn 11 and sometimes when I watch her do her homework or read a book I forget she’s growing up. Sometimes, I also forget she’s just a child. I forget she’s still learning. I forget she needs to hear that she’s doing her best. I forget to tell her that trying and failing is better than not trying at all.

I always try to remind myself, if I, as a mother need encouragement, how much more does my daughter need it?

I have a list of things that I say to encourage my daughter when she needs it most, and even when she thinks she doesn’t need it:

1. You did great. I saw you work really hard. Keep it up.
2. You gave it your all. Sometimes that is all you can do.
3. I think you would like it if you tried it. If you don’t like it, that is OK too.
4. I know this is a hard choice for you to make. I am glad you came to me. What would feel right for you to do?
5. You can do anything you set your mind to.

Sometimes, encouragement is reminding them, and ourselves, that nothing is impossible; the word itself says “I’m Possible.”

What are some ways you encourage your kids?